From the moment you see a positive pregnancy test and learn of an unplanned pregnancy, you may feel a complicated mix of emotions — shock, confusion, anxiety, overwhelm — and the list goes on. You may even find yourself thinking, “I don’t want a baby, and I’m pregnant.” Every woman reacts differently to the news of an unplanned pregnancy, and this reaction is totally okay. Many expectant parents facing the shock will google “How to give up my baby for adoption?”
Although we cannot give you an exact answer about what to do next, we can equip you with accurate information so that you can make the best decision for you and your baby. Fortunately, there are a few different unplanned pregnancy options available!
Our best advice for the decision-making process is to remain open, think things through, consider yourself and your baby’s well-being, and trust that you are the only person who knows the best decision.
You are not alone. Others have experienced what you are feeling and gotten through the challenges. We have helped women who approached us, saying:
- “I don’t want a baby, but I’m pregnant.”
- “I don’t want to be pregnant and don’t know what to do.”
- “I’m pregnant and need to know my options.”
If you relate to any of these concerns, read on for information about our unexpected pregnancy services and assistance on the next steps.
Parenting
While you may feel scared right now, choosing to parent is an option. For some, an unexpected pregnancy transforms their life for the better. They look back on the fear and uncertainty that arose when they first learned of the pregnancy. When looking back on those thoughts of not wanting to be pregnant, they realize that the child is the greatest gift they have received.
While being a parent is a huge responsibility, it is also a beautiful experience. But there is a lot to consider before choosing this option.
Costs of Parenting
First, consider the cost of parenting. It is estimated to cost $233,610 to raise a child to the age of 18. This does not consider the time and emotional energy it takes to raise a child.
Support System
Also, consider the strength of your support system. Does the father want to be involved? Do you have other family or friends who will support you and help with childcare?
Your Personal Goals
It’s also important to consider your life goals and how a child fits into the picture. Some pregnant women realize that pursuing educational and career goals would be too challenging with a child.
Pregnant and Don’t Want the Baby?
A parent has a loving and beautiful role in a child’s life. But you do not have to become a parent if you are not ready. You may have recently discovered you’re pregnant and still feel that you do not want to parent.
If you are unsure what to do, an Adoption Specialist from Texas Adoption Center would be happy to discuss parenthood’s pros and cons. That way, you can feel confident and at peace knowing that you chose the best option.
Terminating the Pregnancy When You Don’t Want a Baby
If you are pregnant and don’t want the baby, terminating the pregnancy may be another option. This is a hard topic to discuss and a hard option to consider. Nonetheless, it is an option that may be available to you. However, it is also an option that must be considered appropriately before making a final decision.
If you are stressed and anxious and can only think, “I don’t want to be pregnant,” take time to calm down and fully consider this option. You mustn’t make this permanent decision in a rushed state when emotions are running high.
Here are some ways to learn more about this option and what it involves.
- Speak to your support (trusted relatives, friends, pastor, counselor, etc.)
- Consult with your doctor in the first trimester
- Research information about the procedure and how it impacts your health
Take an adequate amount of time to gather information and make an informed decision, as it is permanent.
Also, look at your local laws to understand your options better. This is a decision only you can make, and it is a deeply personal one. Some women decide, “I don’t want to be pregnant, but I don’t want an abortion.” If you feel this way, there are alternatives to abortion that may work for you.
Generally, people do not like to talk about abortion, but we approach the subject respectfully and intentionally. It’s not a decision that can be undone and shouldn’t be taken lightly. We arm you with resources, counseling, and judgment-free support.
Adoption
Last but not least, adoption is another choice. By placing your baby for adoption, you allow their story to be continued with loving adoptive parents that you hand-selected. It’s a beautiful beginning to a lovely story and can give your baby a life of opportunities.
Choose At Any Time
Additionally, adoption provides you with choices. You can choose adoption at any point in your pregnancy and can even make a choice after you deliver. An Adoption Specialist can help you to create a plan that is individual to you and your baby.
Choose the Adoptive Family
You can choose the family you want to place your baby with as well as how much contact you want with your baby after the adoption placement occurs. Many women who choose adoption feel empowered as a result.
Receive Financial Assistance
If the fear of your financial situation is holding you back from placing your baby for adoption, know that Texas Adoption Center can assist you with pregnancy care, medical costs, housing costs, groceries, and transportation to your doctor appointments. In fact, adoption agencies and charities across the country offer financial assistance to pregnant women. Adoption is free for expectant mothers.
Adoption: A Second Chance for Mother and Child
There are many reasons for choosing adoption, and you should never feel guilty or ashamed of this brave decision. Birth mothers can change others’ lives by placing a child with a hopeful adoptive family.
If you have any questions about adoption, call one of our loving adoption specialists at (844) 893-7943 or take a peek at Birth Mother Blogs.
Pregnant and Don’t Want the Baby? Here’s More Information
You may feel overwhelmed right now and need someone to talk to. If you are currently thinking, “I don’t want a baby, and I’m pregnant,” Texas Adoption Center is here to help.
We have excellent reviews, with one mother stating:
“Stacey and Caitlin are truly driven, extremely professional, and just a joy to be around! You helped me in my time of distress and need. Very supportive, and I will love you forever!!!”
No matter your decision, we are here to offer support and the resources you need. To start the conversation, contact us anytime at 844.893.7943 or text us at 361.461.3742. We cannot wait to hear from you!
