“How To Place Your Baby With an Adoptive Family” In South Texas
If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy, the idea of becoming a parent before you’re ready may seem overwhelming and even scary. This feeling is completely normal. But the fact that you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you need to take on the role of parent at this point in your life. You may decide, after giving it much thought, that an adoption would be the best choice for both you and your baby.
Here are some of the concerns that often arise when women first consider adoption—thoughts that you too may be having—and some information on each that you may find helpful.
“I don’t know anything about adoption. How do I understand the process?”
You are not alone. Many women do not know about adoption until they are suddenly faced with considering alternatives to parenting. We completely understand that the process can be overwhelming and confusing, and we are here to help you understand every detail. Many women think that adoption is giving up or abandoning their baby, but in reality, it is giving your child the opportunity to have a wonderful life. Adoption is a loving choice. We are here to listen, to discuss, to care, and to answer any questions or concerns that you have.
“I can’t imagine giving up my baby. Is there emotional support?”
Adoption is a difficult choice. There is no way around it. We are here to support you every step of the way, even after the adoption is finalized. Although many birth moms feel confident in their decision, it is still emotionally taxing, and having emotional support is greatly beneficial. We are here for you always—before, during, and after the birth. Even if it’s a year later, you can count on us for support.
“I don’t need to place my child for adoption because I have a family member who will take care of my baby.”
Having family support is definitely helpful, but that doesn’t mean you should become a parent when you’re not ready. Even if you’re already a mom, each pregnancy is different, and what worked before may not be the best choice now. Having an informal arrangement with a family member can blur the lines of responsibility. It can also be hard—for all concerned, including the child—if a friend or family member is the primary parent but you see them regularly in the community or family functions. While friends or family can be a great resource, relationships can become strained, and life can be emotionally difficult for you, the child, and the caregiver. Often, this is not really a very attractive option.
“I have other kids and I don’t want anyone to know I am considering adoption. Does that make me a bad mom?”
Many women consider adoption because their life circumstances just won’t financially or emotionally allow for a child. A common situation is a birthmother who has other children and, for the sake of those children and the baby, feels that adoption would give her kids the best life possible.
Our services are confidential. Whether you are calling to ask about adoption or to finalize an adoption, we don’t share this information with anyone else. If you would like your adoption to remain confidential, we can do that.
Remember, you are in charge. You get to choose what kind of adoption you feel is best for your child(ren) and for yourself. Many women choose to have a semi-open adoption, which means that you will still receive updates and pictures, but will not be actively involved in the child’s life. You determine the relationship you will have with the adoptive parents and child in the future, and we will support that vision.
At Texas Adoption Agency, We Have Wonderful Adoption Specialists To Work With Our Birth Moms. Meet Irma:
Irma has a background working in child welfare, and she has been with Texas Adoption Center since October. She loves her job and appreciates the unique experience that working with each birth mom presents.
“Adoption is one of the most raw experiences you will ever have. You are there when a mom is placing her baby and when the adoptive parents receive the baby. You see both sides. There is a sense of loss and a sense of joy. It’s really rewarding to be with everyone involved.”
If you are considering placing your baby for adoption in McAllen, Brownsville or the Greater Rio Grande Valley, Irma is your Adoption Specialist! You can always reach out to Irma for more information or to talk through any concerns you have. First and foremost, we are advocates for birth moms, and that means anything you tell us is confidential. We look forward to hearing from you!