When she found out she was pregnant, she was already three and a half months along. Ready to end her pregnancy, the result of a rape when she was passed out, she felt hopeless and alone. Then, 4 months in, she realized there were two babies inside of her. Twins.

“In my mind, approaching four months was too far along for me to have an abortion,” birth mom “B” said. “I think that’s why that happened because God had an ultimate plan in the end and I couldn’t see it,” she said.

Almost nine months later, birth mom B’s twins are happy, healthy, and living with their incredible adoptive birth parents. Birth mom “B” is thriving, working on a savings plan, attending a weekly bible study and working on herself.

“Every day I’m just like excited,” she said. “I feel like I’m saving up for them, for something in the future. I’m just going to work as hard as I can and strive for that day that they’re ready to meet me.”

Birth Mom “B” has a come a long way since joining the Texas Adoption Center family.

From Betrayal to Newfound Love and Support

After finding out the pregnancy was a result of an assault by a close family friend, she felt betrayed. As she spoke up and told her family, they stopped talking to her and pushed her away. She felt abandoned and alone.

“Birth Mom B” said she told God that she was going to terminate her pregnancy. But, she said she could tell he had a different plan when she found out she was pregnant with twins.

She was distraught and felt like she was ready to end it all. But, she pushed on and began searching for a family to adopt her child. She found a couple on her own, without the help of an adoption agency. They seemed like a perfect fit. But, she walked away after noticing some red flags and realizing they hadn’t been completely honest with her.

At 6 months pregnant, Birth Mom “B” didn’t have a plan for what she was going to do with her babies.

Then, she called Texas Adoption Center.

When Texas Adoption Center Stepped In

“They are like angels, they came and saved me,” she said. Birth Mom “B” started working with her Adoption Specialist, Stacey, who helped her by taking her to doctors appointments.

“She was doing everything she needed to do for me to make sure I didn’t feel like I was by myself,” she said.

By the time Stacey told birth mom “B” it was time to choose a family, the two had built a strong relationship based on care and trust.

Choosing An Adoptive Family

Birth mom “B” fell in love with the first family Stacey showed her.

“They were exactly who I wanted,” she said. “Their tone, their background. They were the kind of people I grew up with when I was a child,” she said.”

After reading all about the adoptive parents, Birth mom “B” was sold. Stacey arranged a phone call with the couple, who were even more impressive than birth mom “B” imagined.

“I felt peace. I felt so good inside. I asked her, are these real people?” she said

Stacey and Texas Adoption Center helped birth mom “B” through the rest of her adoption journey. From meeting the adoptive parents in person, holding her hand through labor and delivery, and continuing to support and encourage her today.

How Is She Now? Strong and Motivated

Today, birth mom “B” says her adoption journey has made her stronger.

“I met so many amazing people through this journey and I’m inspired,” she said. “I’m so glad that I went the route that I did and I would tell anybody else that if they can’t do it, go through an agency like Texas Adoption Center because there you will find hope and support.”

She’s still dealing with the aftermath of her pregnancy with her family and working to get her post-pregnancy body back. But, birth mom “B” said she believes the best is yet to come.

“I didn’t think I was going to come out a winner at the end, but I’m winning,” she said.

At Texas Adoption Center, we help women like birth mom “B” through some of the most difficult periods of their life. We provide hope and relentless support because we know our birth mothers are some of the strongest, bravest, most inspiration women out there.

If you or anyone you know wants more information about their options during pregnancy or about adoption, call us today at 512.893.7943. We can’t wait to connect with you.

“Adoption should be an empowering option for young women in crisis, knowing that the people around them- family, friends, church – will respect their choice.”  Unknown

“He is mine in a way that he will never be hers, yet he is hers in a way that he will never be mine, and so together, we are motherhood.” Desha Woodall

“A Birthmother puts the needs of her child above the wants of her heart.” -Skye Hardwick

“Giving birth does not make a mother… Placing a child for adoption does not make her less of one.” Unknown

“I know (my birth mother) must have had a lot of love for me to want to give (me) what she felt was a better chance.” Faith Hill

“If you love someone unconditionally and with your whole heart, then you will do what is best for them, not you. I have never learned a harder lesson than giving my child up for adoption, and I probably never will.” Talitha

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are… Mindfully practicing authenticity during our most soul-searching struggles is how we invite grace, joy, and gratitude into our lives.” -Brené Brown

“Adoption isn’t a birthmother’s rejection but an unconditional love that inspires her to put herself last and do all she can for her baby.” – Mary Hines

“The circumstances surrounding your birth are not as important as the opportunity to live life.” – Lailah Gifty Akita

Dear Birth Mothers

Know that you are loved. That you are cared about. That your feelings are not forgotten. Placing your baby for adoption is an incredibly brave and loving decision. However, that doesn’t mean it is easy. You may feel pain, sadness and even grief, even when you know you made the right decision to place your baby for adoption. It’s okay to feel. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to need support.

You may feel like nobody understands what you’re going through. But, know this: your feelings matter.

At Texas Adoption Center, we’ve worked with women just like you. Perhaps you’re pregnant and considering placing your baby for adoption. Or, maybe you placed your baby for adoption years ago. No matter where you are in your journey, we want to support you.

Our adoption specialists can give you more information about the adoption process. Additionally, they can be a listening ear as you work through the many thoughts and feelings you have. If you’re thinking about placing your baby for adoption, give us a call today at 513.893.7943.

When you place your baby for adoption, being a birth mother becomes a part of your story, but it’s not your whole story. You will live and love and move through life, just like your child will. And what’s ahead? Beautiful, wonderful things for both you and your child.

Know that we will be there to support you throughout your life, not just during your pregnancy. We are here to support you.  Contact us today.

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